Yes, I went there! Today, I am talking about the “s” word. The “s” word that everyone giggles at or doesn’t want to talk about, unless they are in a safe place talking to a good friend. I know a lot of you are new to following me, but if you want to know more about me, I like to be open about deep topics. I think it’s great to encourage one another and be open about the topics in life that people are afraid to talk about.
It’s okay if you don’t agree. I just want you to see the beauty of sex and all God designed it to be. I hope this can be inspiring for you if you are single, dating, or married. Us ladies have to walk life together and be real!
I first want to give you our background and views on purity and sex. Jason (hubby) and I met when we were 18 years old, in our church high school youth group. From the moment we met each other, we were both physically attracted to one another. We hit it off and started dating right away. A commitment we made to ourselves, while dating, was to stay pure. This helped us not only focus on our relationship with the Lord, but it helped us date and focus on getting to know each other. We enjoyed the little things in dating like going to the movies, playing golf, hanging with friends and family. Now, I am not going to lie and say it was easy. It was actually really hard! The longer we dated, the harder it got. If you are walking this same road with your boyfriend, you are aware of the struggles. You have to have boundaries to help you along the way, and mentors who will encourage you to wait. It’s not an easy road, but something worth waiting for is never going to be easy.
Why wait you ask? Is it worth it?
Media and our world are always pushing sex. It has been like this since I was little, and it will never change. My encouragement for you is to wait. Even if you have had sex or still are, I encourage you to go the other way. We know a couple who were engaging in premarital sex, and then decided to stop and pursue Jesus in their relationship. It has changed everything for them! They took their focus off of sex and put it on Jesus, and they have grown so much closer because of that. They are about to get married, and they can’t wait to share that moment together on their wedding night. It will be the first time for them, because once you drop everything and follow Jesus, He makes you NEW.
Now, sex is the cherry on top in marriage. God designed it to be so intimate, that is why he talks about it in Matthew 19:5, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” You truly become one flesh. Jason and I waited five years to have sex, and from a young couple who was walking the opposite direction of the world, our encouragement is that it is so much better this way!
It is extremely hard to explain my passion for this subject over a blog post, but my hope would be for you to be inspired. Feel free to ask me questions. I would love to hear your story. We all have a story, and that is what makes us so unique. You are loved by the King of Kings, no matter if you are having sex before marriage or if you are waiting. My encouragement and hope is for you to hear OUR story and see how it is better this way. Our wedding night was everything we dreamed of while dating (we waited 5 years, haha!). I hope you can experience this same joy and beauty in sex that we discovered on our journey.
Excited to hear your stories and learn more about you!