There is beauty in every season of a relationship. There is beauty at the start when butterflies are fluttering in your stomach. Beauty in the first kiss that makes your knees weak. Beauty when he gets down on one knee and gives you a look that is now home. Beauty when you say “I Do” in front of family and friends, who have seen every step of your relationship and also encouraged you along the way. Beauty in struggling financially, but then watching the Lord provide during those struggles. Beauty in your first apartment that has a rusty bathtub you refuse to bath in. Beauty in job promotions and career changes, and watching the Lord spoil you tenfold for placing your trust in Him during those beautiful struggles.
Over these almost four years of marriage, Jason and I have experienced different seasons. Some seasons are wonderful, others are overwhelming and tough. During those overwhelming/difficult seasons, we have to remind each other that it will soon pass. What has been true in every season of our marriage is that the Lord has been with us. I find that during the difficult seasons, Jason and I draw especially near to Him. The difficult seasons show us that we can’t do it alone and that we are only human after all.
The beauty in the different seasons of marriage is that you get to adventure through them together. Our first season of marriage is one I will never forget. Jason and I got married after he had just graduated college and we were barely making any money. Jason was working a $9/hr job and I was working part-time for a high school. We heard from mentors and people we respected that tithing and trusting God with your money was important and life-changing. For some reason we were afraid to let go. I will never forget lying in bed one night and reading the bible verse about giving a tenth of your harvest. After we read the verse, we just looked at each other and chuckled. We got out our calculator and calculated what a tenth of our monthly budget would look like. Once we saw the number, I freaked out thinking that there was no way we would make it if we tithed. Well that night, we made a commitment to give a tenth of our monthly budget and we have never looked back. The Lord has poured His blessings on us over the last four years in more ways than one. I am telling you, tithing and trusting God with your money is one amazing adventure. You won’t know until you try it.
We are now in a new season of our marriage with Jason’s new career change. Again, God opened up some amazing doors that has been such an answer to prayer. We have made some sacrifices with this change, but it is really one step back to move ten steps forward. We are in a spot with Jason’s career where we have no idea where we will be a year from now, and that can be frightening but thrilling at the same time. We know in order to chase your dreams you have to take risks, and we also know we have the Lord with us so we have nothing to fear. In this new season of sacrifices and change, we are learning to find the #jacobiadventure in the little things. We know this season will pass just like the rest, and until then we are going to enjoy this season of ‘not knowing.’
My hope and prayer for Jason and I is that we will find joy and freedom in every season of our marriage. I hope you have that same prayer for your life. We need to have peace in knowing that the Lord has gone before us and that there is nothing we should fear!
Engagement photos from over four years ago