Wow! I can’t believe Jason and I are coming up on our 1 year anniversary. This time last year we were collecting RSVP’s and organizing last minute details. It was such a crazy time but so much fun! What amazes me is that I love my husband soooo more then I did the day I stood up in front of everyone and said, “I Do.”
Throughout this year, I have learned a lot about marriage and what it means to be a Godly wife. Being 23 years old and being a wife for the first time was definitely a change. I remember when we got engaged we had some people be like, “Why are you getting married so young?” “Don’t you want to wait?” I know people will always have their opinions but in our case we were ready and after looking back at this year, I can say it was an amazing 1st year of marriage.
A couple of weeks ago when I was talking to my friend Caroline about marriage I just flat out said, “Marriage is the most amazing thing! I never knew it would be this fun.” I think in our society we look at marriage in a negative way. We look at it more like we are being tied down, where in fact we are being made alive. Marriage is so beautiful with just the bond and intimacy you have with one another. You are truly One.
What Jason and I have learned is that we are better together then we ever would be apart.
Here is a list of some things I have learned in my first year of marriage.
1. Crock pots are a must! – with Jason and I both working, crock pots are huge when being able to have dinner ready on time.
2. Being right will eventually lose its appeal – I am pretty stubborn but I have learned that I am not always right and sometimes it just best to step off the high horse.
3. My husband is not my fashion stylist – “Jason, does this match?” “What shoes do I wear?” “Is this dress too short?” Trust me, they help at first but after a few too many questions, you lose your fashion stylist.
4. I am not as clean as I thought I was – Jason is a pretty clean guy which I am so thankful for because he will help me clean the dishes and dust. I however, need to work on my clothes sitting in the corner.
5. We are on the same team– When it comes to little arguments or things that don’t matter we have to stop ourselves and be like, we’re on the same team. We are for each other, not against each other.
6. Spontaneous trips are a must! – Best spontaneous trip yet was driving up to Big Bear while it was snowing and then snowboarding for the weekend. The best part about it was that we planned the trip and decided to go at 12pm on Friday and left at 4:30pm that same day. It was definitely an adventure!
7. Date- We love our little date night Sushi place in Newport. It’s important to still dress up like we did when we dated for 5 years. I still love getting all dressed up and catching my husbands eye.
8. Find a fun hobby to do together– For us its the gym. We both are fitness freaks and love working out so it makes it fun because we do it together. Jason will train me in weights and I will get him on that stair master for cardio.
9. Time flies– I can’t believe how fast this year has gone! It teaches me to enjoy every second of our marriage.
10. I love the saying, “If she left the ketchup out on the counter before you got married, she will even after you’re married.” – This is so true! Jason and I have learned each others habits this year and what I have come to realize is that some things you just have to accept and not start a lame argument over.
11. Prayer is huge– Praying together and just lifting each other up has a big impact on marriage. On of my favorite things to do is pray for Jason. I believe lifting my husband up in prayer is something really special that only me as a wife can do for him.
12. Dream Big – My husband is a dreamer and he taught me to dream big as well. We love setting goals and talking about our big dreams in life and what we want to do together and where we want to travel.
13. Love like Christ– This just reminds me of one of my favorite verses ever. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails” 1 Corinthians 13:4-13.
14. Be thankful – starting off at the bottom in both of our jobs and living in a small apartment has just taught us to be thankful for what God has blessed us with. We know that one day we will look back at our first year of marriage and laugh about our first apartment and how small it was but for now we are going to enjoy and make memories.
15. Laugh– I learned that laughter is so important. After a good day or a bad day, to just laugh and make each other smile. Life is too short to not be smiling.
I know in the years to come I will learn even more about marriage and what it means to be a Godly wife. Loving Jason and being his wife has been a special gift that was given to me. One of my favorite quotes says it so perfectly, “Every man needs a woman when his life is a mess, because just like the game of chess, the Queen protects the King.”